Many people feel like it is difficult making friends in a mountain town due to its transient nature. Most people are not from the area so there isn't that connection to friends that are established in school/university.
The ones that have been here for a while have their clique and it seems like alot of effort to let someone new in. Yes... it does take effort...but not the kind of effort like taking out the trash or doing the dirty dishes. It's fun, interesting and fulfilling. Everyone is the same..everyone needs friendship. Friendship gives us perspective, grounding and a sense of belonging. Friendship gives us a safe haven from the roller coaster of life. Friendship should be non-judgemental, real and honest. Friendship does take effort and in return (not that you should expect it) you will be given the greatest gift of all...yes you guessed it...
Research shows that one of the reasons women live longer after their long term partner dies is because of their ability of maintain relationships with their friends. Love and support are critical. This is not to say men don't need it. They absolutely do. It's so good to take time out from your partner to have that bonding with your mates. It's a different dynamic and the time away actually strengthens and unites us back with our partner. It inspires discussion and analysis of people and life.
I think friendship effort is worth it...and if someone doesn't respond to it...that's ok..because there is always someone who will and they are the ones you want to be friends with.
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